Enjoy light reading

 

 

  • Strange Social Customs in India

    SATI

    The origin of Sati is not definitely known, but generally it has been ascribed to the self-immolation of God Shiva’s wife, Sati. She, on finding that her husband was not invited by her father, Daksha, for some Yaga, to which he had invited all the other deities, created a fire out of her innate powers and immolated herself in front of the guests.

    Sati is of great antiquity but was not favored from ancient times by all legists. All the ancient scriptures disagree with sati and say that one should not die before ones’ destined time. Sati was mentioned by Vishnu (100-200 A.D.) as the other alternative for a woman after her husband’s death if she is not able to lead a chaste life.

    In spite of the disapproval, we find that in the Mahabharatha, that Madri burnt herself on the funeral pyre of her husband. In the sixth century, Sati was practiced in the South as well. In the Tamil literary work Silapathikaram, it is mentioned that Kanaki went with her husband to Madurai. There Kovalan was wrongly accused of stealing one of the anklets of the Queen. The king, without further enquiry ordered the man to be prosecuted.

    When Kanaki heard of this, she committed Sati after cursing the city. During the Chola period in the South, women voluntarily committed Sati saying that if they lived after their husband’s death they would be enslaved by their co-wives, or would be misused by the men of their place and so on. But pregnant woman were not allowed to commit sati.

    Sati appears to have continued during the Mughal rule too, and Akbar tried to abolish this system but in vain.The ritual of Sati goes on like this; When a man dies, his corpse is taken to the cremation ground, his wife accompanying it, attired in the best garments with her friends and kindred. Once the crematorium is reached, a fire was lit and after circumambulating the spot, she sits near the body and wails for her husband and then rejoices on the act that she is able to accompany her husband in death.

    Then the people tie her on the pile and throw oil and dry sticks over it once the pyre is lit. In the town of Surat, even girls below 10 years who had child marriages were forced to perform sati just because the man to whom they were betrothed has been dead. Law at last after so many centuries abolished the usage of sati on December 4, 1829, in British India but it still seems to be there with one or two cases having been reported after the enforcement of the law.

    JAUHAR

    Hindu women, to escape from the hands of the invaders, particularly the Muslims, resorted to Jauhar, with whom they did not want to have any contact. This is a variation of Sati, in that, in Sati, the woman is forced to die whereas in the case of Jauhar, the woman voluntarily vows to die.

    Women often executed Jauhar when they were besieged and their men decide to face their foes and fight to death. But like sati it was not made compulsory, for many Rajput women, among those who suffered by an enemy confrontation did not commit Jauhar.

    TULAPURUSHADANA

    The Tulapurushadana or the royal weighment was a ceremony observed by kings and also by lesser people. It implied a gift, equal to the weight of a man in gold and later with precious metals and other objects. It was one of the sixteen great gifts, which have been mentioned in the Puranas.

    Rukmini placing a Tulsi leaf in a weighing scale while Krishna sat in the other pan is an example of this in mythology. This ceremonious gift of the Tulapurushadana is also referred in the Tamil classic, Silapathikaram.This practice is observed even today by the common in fulfilling a vow made for the sake of children or some sickness or some sin, etc, in holy places and shrines. Akbar, during his solar anniversary was weighed against gold, silver, silk, perfumes, copper, drugs, ghee, iron, rice, seven kinds of grain and salt. These items were then distributed to the courtiers or the poor and beggars or prisoners, as a means of keeping away the royal person free from bodily and mental harm.
    DHAMA

    A system of coercion to exact or enforce one’s demands in private and public life has been known in India from antiquity. It was called by Indian legists, ACHARITA or as it is now called in a new garb, Gherao. Sitting at the door of a debtor, or fasting or the creditor starving him to death can be taken as an example for the act of Dharna. Sometimes bribes could break up a dharna no matter how powerful it had been. Not only the common people but even the ruler, the ministers, the courtiers sometimes resort to dharna to have their demands met. Sitting on the door of the debtor and starving oneself to death may frighten the debtor as he would think that the creditor may die and his ghost shall haunt his house. Sometimes the creditor may try to immolate himself near the debtor or at times may carry a heavy unbearable stone on him until the debtor arranges some way to repay. Dharna is very much in vogue today with various unions and establishments going to the streets with out taking any food or without doing any work until their demands are met.

    SVAYAMVARA

    Svayamvara means choosing one’s husband, oneself, in an open assembly. These days though women have the right to choose their husbands according to their own wish, it can’t be termed svayamvara, as it is not the practice of choosing from a wide choice of men on one go. Such a selection is often made after a grand exhibition of strength, skill and such things, which marked out the candidate in a large crowd of eligible competitors. The maiden is usually a full-grown woman who could make her own choice, using her own free will, discretion and judgment. Such a system of choosing one’s mate has been in vogue in India from antiquity.

    In India, the svayamvara has been known from the days of the Mahabharata and Ramayana. In the former epic, we learn how the great hero and bowman Arjun won in an open tourney, the hands of Draupadi. The same epic tells about the choice of Damayanti, who, in an open assembly, selected her husband, the great Nala, preferring him to the gods Agni, Varuna and Indra. In the Ramayana, Rama won Sita; the daughter of King Janaka, in an open competition by bending the great bow, the weapon of god Shiva which none could bend.

     

    (source: http://www.indianmirror.com/strange/stindia1.html)

  • Irish Diabetes Test

     

    Irish Diabetes test

    One day an Irishman goes into a pharmacy shop, reaches into his pocket and takes out a small bottle and a teaspoon.

    He pours some liquid onto the teaspoon and offers it to the chemist. “Could you taste this for me, please?”The chemist takes the teaspoon, puts it in his mouth, swills the liquid around and swallows it.

    “Does that taste sweet to you?” says Paddy.

    “No, not at all,” says the chemist.

    “Oh that’s a relief,” says Paddy. “The doctor told me to come here and get my urine tested for sugar.”

    (contributed by : TR Raju on 20.09.2012)

     

  • Wishing you Enough!

    Recently I overheard a Father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure of her
    plane.

    Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the Father said,
    ‘I love you, and I wish you enough.’

    The daughter replied, ‘Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.’
    They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and
    needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, ‘Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?’

    ‘Yes, I have,’ I replied. ‘Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?’.
    ‘I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is – the next trip back will be for my funeral,’ he said.

    ‘When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough.’ May I ask what that means?’

    He began to smile. ‘That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone…’ He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. ‘When we said, ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.’ Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.

    I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.

    I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.

    I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
    I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.

    I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.

    I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.

    I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.

    He then began to cry and walked away.

    They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.

     

     

     

    (contributed by: Mohan Rao on 08.02.2012 )

  • Some Life Tips.

     

    Life Tips.

    Your greatness is measured by your kindness ,

    your education and intellect by your modesty,

    your ignorance is betrayed by your suspicions and prejudices,

    your real calibrenis measured by the consideration and tolerance you have for others.

    ————————–

    You came into the world with nothing

    Anything you get after that is sheer profit.

    ————————–

    Write down the advice of him who loves you,

    though you like it not present

    you will need it later.

    ————————–

    Who teaches me for a day is my father for a lifetime.

    ————————-

    When something has happened,

    do not talk about it,

    it is hard to collect spilled water.

    ————————–

    When glory comes, loss of memory follows.

    ————————–

    When everything seems to be going dead wrong,

    take a good look and see if you are not headed in the wrong direction.

     

    (courstey  from : More Lessons of life by Gyan C. Jain )

     

  • Shri Hanuman Temple, Patna

    Mahavir Mandir, Patna, is one of the leading Hanuman temples in the country. Daily, thousands of devotees throng the temple and get solace from the worship of Hanumanji. It is a manokamana mandir, where devotees’ every wish is fulfilled, and this is the reason for the ever-increasing number of devotees in the temple. As per […]

    The post Shri Hanuman Temple, Patna appeared first on PourYourHeart.

  • Holiday Places

    extrem holiday12

    Climbing Mt. Wellington

    extrem holiday13

    A death-defying act by Eskil Rønningsbakken in Norway

    extrem holiday14

    Now imagine if you dropped your phone down there

    extrem holiday15

    Glacierboarding

    extrem holiday16

    Bike trail on the Cliffs of Moher

    extrem holiday9

    Vintage climbing photo taken from Gaston Rébuffat’s book

    extrem holiday10

    Extreme kayaking at Victoria Falls

    extrem holiday11

    Blake Aldridge dives 29 metres from the rock monolith during the Red Bull Cliff Diving World Series in Portugal

    [Contributed by: User – Chetan Bhatt on 03/06/2013]

  • How to Be a good Wife / Daughter in law

    For nearly two decades, I have been married to a great man with an amazing–and amazingly insane–family. I have often joked with my husband that someday I will write a soap opera pilot based on his family. Now, with soap operas on their way out, maybe it will be an unreal reality show. In any case, his family–complete with the four-time married estranged father with a debilitating neurological disease and a mail-order bride, many full, step and half siblings, a politician, a couple of lawyers, a professor (and a Mary Ann, but not on Gilligan’s Island)–all became my family, too, on our wedding day, including, most importantly, my husband’s mother.

    My mother-in-law.

    Throughout our marriage, my mother-in-law has been both a source of friendship and love as well as the deep grooves that have formed from biting my tongue so much. I have the dubious honor of being the wife of her baby boy–and the youngest of her natural children and her step-children.

    Here, I offer what I think has helped me be a good daughter in law (it makes life easier) and has kept me out of the advice columns.

    1. Make sure your husband has cut the apron strings.
    This might sound like a recipe for disaster, but it has to happen in order to have a good relationship with your mom-in-law. Until my husband personally told his mother that, no, we were not inviting 200 of her closest relatives to our wedding, she was on her way to ruling our roost. But that last snip cut not only the last of the apron string but all the tension that was building up. Well, at least for a while. Without cutting those apron strings, though, your husband has two women trying to have a primary relationship with him. That won’t work–and that is the source of many of those advice column letters.

    2. Make sure your husband calls, texts, e-mails or whatever his mother.
    This is advice that came from my own mother. She used it with my dad and his mom. “You haven’t talked to your mom for a while. You should call your mom.” Encourage a new, adult relationship between your husband and his mother. She may or may not realize it is you behind the weekly or so phone calls–but she won’t feel as if she’s lost her little boy.

    3. Call, text, e-mail or whatever your mother-in-law.
    Yes, you. Call your mother-in-law on your own. Try it–she probably won’t bite. Attempt to forge a friendship with her. You married her son. You love him. Ergo, she might be a compatible friend to you. Don’t know what to talk about? Start with what you have in common: her son. Perhaps it is as simple as telling her what he’s been up to that he wouldn’t have told her himself. It’s amazing the conversational differences between men on the phone and women on the phone. He could have had a botched root canal and when his mom asks how his day was, he’d say, “Fine. What’s up with you?” Your mother-in-law will learn that you are actually the true source of information for what her son is actually doing in life. Conversations immediately become much easier once you and your spouse have children. Then, no matter how different you and the mom-in-law are, you have motherhood and her grandchild in common.

    4. Don’t say “no” too often.
    This is easier if your in-laws live out of town like mine do. But then again, perhaps saying no is a bigger deal when they want to visit and haven’t seen the grandkids for a few months. Anyway, try not to actually say “no” very often. “We’re really busy next weekend. The kids have x, y and z to do. Is there a better weekend?” That’s both honest and polite–and doesn’t get very negative. Leave the negative out as much as possible.

    5. Respect the in-law (aka Remember to bite your tongue)
    I yelled at my mother-in-law once on the phone (because we live too far apart to do it in person). And it set back our relationship, my husband’s relationship with his mom and could have impacted her relationship with our kids if I had let it. Big mistake (even though I was right!). It took a long time to feel like we were back to normal. If you feel yourself boiling over, learn to bite your tongue.

    6. Watch what you post on Facebook
    While we are on the subject of biting your tongue: Don’t post your frustrations with your in-laws on Facebook. Even if you aren’t friends with any in-laws on Facebook, your husband probably is. And surely, you are friends with your husband. Someone is bound to say something. I’m even rather wary about publishing this article! And I’m certainly not going to promote it on Facebook or Twitter.

    7. Go out for some mother-in-law / daughter-in-law alone time.
    Lunch out, shopping, a museum. Go out with her–do something you both like together. This helps you build some memories together. Most mother-in-laws work, if they haven’t retired yet. Shopping for work clothes or shoes together might help you explore areas of each other’s lives that neither of you probably know much about.

    8. Let her baby-sit the babies if she wants to.
    Unless she has a history of child abuse, you should let her baby-sit and even have the kids overnight. She’s been in charge of small kids before (her own) who made it to adulthood. Even though cribs are built differently, walkers aren’t used anymore and the average child watches more TV in one year than we did in 10, your mother-in-law will be fine with the basics for at least a few hours. Plus, sometimes grandmas have a magic touch that can help get kids (and you) through a stage you haven’t quite been able to master. My own mom scooped up the 4-month-old baby and stated, “Tonight, she can sleep in her nursery. She doesn’t need to sleep in your room anymore.” And Mom was right. Everyone slept much better. My mother-in-law helped potty train my youngest, and my step-father-in-law taught our middle child to ride a bike with no training wheels. I think it’s a combination of patience and seeing the situation with a fresh pair of eyes. Do not feel intimidated or mad if your mother-in-law teaches your child something new–rejoice that it is one more thing off your mental, maternal to-do list.

    9. Begin your visits with a hug and smile. And remember to say “I love you.”

     




———————————————————————————————————————————

 

More >>>>……………