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Aelita Andre: The 2-year-old artist who showed her paintings in a famous Gallery The abstract paintings of emerging artist Aelita Andre have people in Australia ’s art world talking.. Aelita is two (the works were painted when she was even younger). Aelita got an opportunity to show her paintings when Mark Jamieson, the director of […]
- Practical Advice to Newly-Married CouplesOur advice to the husband will be brief. Let him have no concealments from his wife, but remember that their interests are mutual; that, as she must suffer the pains of every loss, as well as share the advantages of every success, in his career in life, she has therefore a right to know the risks she may be made to undergo. We do not say that it is necessary, or advisable, or even fair, to harass a wife’s mind with the details of business; but where a change of circumstances—not for the better—is anticipated or risked, let her by all means be made acquainted with the fact in good time. Many a kind husband almost breaks his young wife’s fond heart by an alteration in his manner, which she cannot but detect, but from ignorance of the cause very probably attributes to a wrong motive; while he, poor fellow, all the while out of pure tenderness, is endeavoring to conceal from her tidings—which must come out at last—of ruined hopes or failure in speculation; whereas, had she but known the danger beforehand, she would have alleviated his fears on her account, and by cheerful resignation have taken out half the sting of his disappointment. Let no man think lightly of the opinion of his wife in times of difficulty. Women have generally more acuteness of perception than men; and in moments of peril, or in circumstances that involve a crisis or turning-point in life, they have usually more resolution and greater instinctive judgment.
We recommend that every husband from the first should make his wife an allowance for ordinary household expenses—which he should pay weekly or monthly—and for the expenditure of which he should not, unless for some urgent reason, call her to account. A tolerably sure guide in estimating the amount of this item, which does not include rent, taxes, servants’ wages, coals, or candles, &c., is to remember that in a small middle-class family, not exceeding four, the expense of each person for ordinary food amounts to fifteen shillings weekly; beyond that number, to ten shillings weekly for each extra person, servant or otherwise. This estimate does not, of course, provide for wine or food of a luxurious kind. The largest establishment, indeed, may be safely calculated on the same scale.
A wife should also receive a stated allowance for dress, within which limit she ought always to restrict her expenses. Any excess of expenditure under this head should be left to the considerate kindness of her husband to concede. Nothing is more contemptible than for a woman to have perpetually to ask her husband for small sums for housekeeping expenses—nothing more annoying and humiliating than to have to apply to him always for money for her own private use—nothing more disgusting than to see a man “mollycoddling” about marketing, and rummaging about for cheap articles of all kinds.
Let the husband beware, when things go wrong with him in business affairs, of venting his bitter feelings of disappointment and despair in the presence of his wife and family,–feelings which, while abroad, he finds it practicable to restrain. It is as unjust as it is impolitic to indulge in such a habit.
A wife having married the man she loves above all others, must be expected in her turn to pay some court to him. Before marriage she has, doubtless, been made his idol. Every moment he could spare, and perhaps many more than he could properly so appropriate, have been devoted to her. How anxiously has he not revolved in his mind his worldly chances of making her happy! How often has he not had to reflect, before he made the proposal of marriage, whether he should be acting dishonorably towards her by incurring the risk, for the selfish motive of his own gratification, of placing her in a worse position than the one she occupied at home! And still more than this, he must have had to consider with anxiety the probability of having to provide for an increasing family, with all its concomitant expenses.
We say, then, that being married, and the honeymoon over, the husband must necessarily return to his usual occupations, which will, in all probability, engage the greater part of his thoughts, for he will now be desirous to have it in his power to procure various little indulgences for his wife’s sake which he never would have dreamed of for his own. He comes to his home weary and fatigued; his young wife has had but her pleasures to gratify, or the quiet routine of her domestic duties to attend to, while he has been toiling through the day to enable her to gratify these pleasures and to fulfill these duties. Let then, the dear, tired husband, at the close of his daily labors, be made welcome by the endearments of his loving spouse—let him be free from the care of having to satisfy the caprices of a petted wife. Let her now take her turn in paying those many little love-begotten attentions which married men look for to soothe them—let her reciprocate that devotion to herself, which, from the early hours of their love, he cherished for her, by her ever-ready endeavors to make him happy and his home attractive.
In the presence of other persons, however, married people should refrain from fulsome expressions of endearment to each other, the use of which, although a common practice, is really a mark of bad taste. It is desirable also to caution them against adopting the too prevalent vulgarism of calling each other, or indeed any person whatever, merely by the initial letter of their surname.
A married woman should always be very careful how she receives personal compliments. She should never court them, nor ever feel flattered by them, whether in her husband’s presence or not. If in his presence, they can hardly fail to be distasteful to him; if in his absence, a lady, by a dignified demeanor, may always convince an assiduous admirer that his attentions are not well received, and at once and for ever stop all familiar advances. In case of insult, a wife should immediately make her husband acquainted therewith; as the only chance of safety to a villain lies in the concealment of such things by a lady from dread of consequences to her husband. From that moment he has her at advantage, and may very likely work on deliberately to the undermining of her character. He is thus enabled to play upon her fears, and taunt her with their mutual secret and its concealment, until she may be involved, guilelessly, in a web of apparent guilt, from which she can never extricate herself without risking the happiness of her future life.
Not the least useful piece of advice—homely though it be—that we can offer to newly-married ladies, is to remind them that husbands are men, and that men must eat. We can tell them, moreover, that men attach no small importance to this very essential operation, and that a very effectual way to keep them in good-humor, as well as good condition, is for wives to study their husband’s peculiar likes and dislikes in this matter. Let the wife try, therefore, if she have not already done so, to get up a little knowledge of the art of ordering dinner, to say the least of it. This task, if she be disposed to learn it, will in time be easy enough; moreover, if in addition she should acquire some practical knowledge of cookery, she will find ample reward in the gratification it will be the means of affording her husband.
Servants are difficult subjects for a young wife to handle: she generally either spoils them by indulgence, or ruins them by finding fault unfairly. At last they either get the better of her, or she is voted too bad for them. The art lies in steady command and management of yourself as well as them. The well-known Dr. Clark, who was always well served, used to say, “It is so extremely difficult to get good servants, that we should not lightly give them up when even tolerable. My advice is, bear a little with them, and do not be too sharp; pass by little things with gentle reprehension: now and then a little serious advice does far more good than sudden fault-finding when the offence justly occurs. If my wife had not acted in this way, we must have been continually changing, and nothing can be more disagreeable in a family, and, indeed, it is generally disgraceful.”
An observance of the few following rules will in all probability ensure a life of domestic harmony, peace, and comfort:–
To hear as little as possible whatever is to the prejudice of others; to believe nothing of the kind until you are compelled to admit the truth of it; never to take part in the circulation of evil report and idle gossip; always to moderate, as far as possible, harsh and unkind expressions reflecting upon others; always to believe that if the other side were heard, a very different account might be given of the matter.
In conclusion, we say emphatically to the newly-wedded wife, that attention to these practical hints will prolong her honeymoon throughout the whole period of wedded life, and cause her husband, as each year adds to the sum of his happiness, to bless the day when he first chose her as the nucleus round which he might consolidate the inestimable blessings of HOME.
“How fair is home, in fancy’s pictured theme,
In wedded life, in love’s romantic dream!
Thence springs each hope, there every spring returns,
Pure as the flame that upward heavenward burns;
There sits the wife, whose radiant smile is given—
The daily sun of the domestic heaven;
And when calm evening sheds a secret power,
Her looks of love imparadise the hour;
While children round, a beauteous train, appear,
Attendant stars, revolving in her sphere.”
— HOLLAND’S Hopes of Matrimony.
- Bill Clinton’s autobiography and “The Titanic” —a comparison of the two booksStudents at a local school were assigned to read two books,‘Titanic’ by James Cameron & ‘My Life’ by Bill Clinton.One student turned in the following book report, with the proposition that they were nearly identical stories!His cool professor gave him an A+ for this report.Titanic: cost – $29.99Clinton : cost – $29.99Titanic: Over 3 hours to readClinton : Over 3 hours to readTitanic: The story of Jack and Rose, their forbidden love, and subsequent catastrophe.Clinton : The story of Bill and Monica, their forbidden love, and subsequent catastrophe.Titanic: Jack is a starving artist.Clinton : Bill is a bullshit artist.Titanic: In one scene, Jack enjoys a good cigar.Clinton : Ditto for MonicaTitanic: During the ordeal, Rose’s dress gets ruined.Clinton : Ditto for Monica.Titanic: Jack teaches Rose to spit.Clinton : Let’s not go there.Titanic: Rose gets to keep her jewelryClinton : Monica is forced to return her gifts.Titanic: Rose remembers Jack for the rest of her life.Clinton : Clinton remembers Monica for the rest of his life.Titanic: Rose goes down on a vessel full of seamen.Clinton : Monica…ooh, let’s not go there, either..Titanic: Jack surrenders to an icy death.Clinton : Bill goes home to Hilary – basically the same thing.(contributed by: sn on 08.12.2012)
Sayajirao III Gaekwad of Baroda livened up the Delhi Durbar of 1911, a circus of royal vanities and petty insecurities, when he committed a breach of protocol and then issued what Motilal Nehru called an “abject apology”.Exclusive extracts from Delhi Durbar 1911: The Complete Story
The planners of the homage ceremony had rejected requests from the Maharajas of Hyderabad, Mysore, Baroda and Gwalior to be exempted from it because it required them to bow before the King Emperor. They wanted to meet the King Emperor as his allies and equals.The Viceroy, Lord Hardinge, had anticipated such sentiments and forewarned the private secretary of King George V in a letter where he wrote: “You must not forget that the new modern Chief, like Bikaner, Scindia & Co., is anxious to gain in position by the king’s visit and set up a new standard, which I have no hesitation in saying would be resented by all the old class of Ruling Chiefs like Jaipur and Nabha. “The subtle but deliberate assertion of superiority, and an underlying scheme of using the ceremonial arrangements to indicate favor to those chiefs considered important for the empire, is visible in the viceroy’s assertion to the king’s private secretary: “Do not believe for an instant that it is right that the Chiefs should have a chair alongside His Majesty. It is absolutely wrong, and the Chiefs should do not dare to set forward such a pretension even when I, the Viceroy, receive them officially. They sit on a lower level, and not alongside but at right angles to me. It is most desirable that there should be a difference between their reception by the Viceroy, receive them officially. They sit on a lower level, and not alongside but at right angles to me. It is most desirable that there should be a difference between their reception by the Viceroy and the King, and in my opinion it is only the 21-gun Chiefs that should be invited by the Government to sit down, always on a lower level, and not alongside but at right angles to me.It is most desirable that there should be a difference between their reception by the Viceroy and the King, and in my opinion it is only the 21-gun Chiefs that should be invited by the Government to sit down, always on a lower level, and not alongside. The other Chiefs Should all remain standing in the presence of the King, While His Majesty sits.”
Even as the viceroy and other top officials laid down the ground rules for the grand assemblage, there was consider princes below 11-gun salute. To save the king from the tedium of receiving all the Indian princes individually, British officials restricted the ceremonial only to royals entitled to a 15-gun salute or more; those with an 11-gun salute or more were to received in a semi-circle in front of the king.
The chiefs who were left out believed that it would lower their standing among other princes, and their people, as they would be seen as being not important enough to be granted a private audience by the king. Of course, it was irrelevant that the exchanges during the audience would amount to inane pleasantries, not significant matters of statecraft.
The Nawab of Loharu, who was entitled to a nine-gun salute, was the most vociferous among the unhappy royals in conveying his “distress and dismay” to the government no this “catastrophic decision”. When his initial submissions were not heeded, he had this to say in a letter to sir A.H. McMahon, Secretary, Foreign Department:
“Such Chiefs as will not be received by the King – Emperor in private interview would be degraded in the eyes of the other Ruling Chiefs, and the people of the East, who, unlike the British people, would never think that the king – Emperor could not receive them owing to the limited time at [sic] disposal. Further more, the existing relations between such Chiefs as would and would not be received by the King – Emperor would be affected.”
There was also a representation from the chief secretary to the Government of Punjab, who felt the salute criteria for deciding which chiefs were to be granted audience would put “more significant” chiefs belonging to Punjab at a disadvantage over “lesser important” chiefs from other regions who rated higher on the gun salute scale. The salutes, argued the chief secretary, had been “fixed on a scale quite incommensurate with the importance of the State and the services which have and do render to Government”.
The Official suggested that either the criterion be changed to account for revenues and number of Imperial Service Troops maintained by the respective chiefs. Alternatively, states such as Jind, Kapurthala and Nabha, the chief secretary demanded, should be raised to 15-gun salute status immediately to remove the disparity. The governor of Bombay also voiced the fear that there would be “bitter disappointment” and “great heart burning” among the 11- and 13-gun chiefs “at being received en bloc by His Majesty”.
This outpouring of anguish ultimately led to the decision being taking that the king would receive the 13-, 11- and nine-gun chiefs singly, not collectively.
In the light of the feverish efforts of the chiefs not to be denied their turn to kowtow to the king-emperor, the controversial action of Maharaja Sayajirao Gaekwad III, who ruled Baroda from 1875 to 1939) stands out as an exception. SAYAJI RAO Gaekwad III was a liberal ruler who had taken major initiatives such as the introduction of compulsory education in his kingdom. He was also know for being independent and having had skirmishes with viceroys in the past, most notably Lord Curzon.
On the day of the Durbar, the Maharaja arrived at the amphi theatre without the ceremonial jeweled sword and the highest imperial order, the diamond Star of India. He had also taken off the necklace after he took his place in the amphi theatre, and made his youngest son, who was accompanying him, wear it.
This became a matter of concern among the top British officials, who had insisted that all the Maharajas and Rajas wear their expensive jewels, medals and carry royal paraphernalia for the event. For the homage ceremony, each ruling chief was expected to bow three times before the King and Queen, and walk in reverse back to his place.
The Gaekwad was the third most senior Maharaja after Hyderabad and Mysore. When his turn came, he bowed once partly, before turning around and walking away. Unlike the others before him, the Gaekwad’s homage smacked of arrogance in the eyes of the colonial masters.
All hell broke loose. Anglo-Indian newspapers like The Pioneer and British newspapers called for action against the Baroda ruler. Later, on the advice of the British Resident in his court, the Maharaja sent a written apology, but the viceroy would have nothing of it. There were calls for deposing him and to reduce the 21-gun salute that he was entitled to. Fortunately for him, he managed to escape any punitive action.
It was not only the press that went ballistic over the Maharaja’s insult. Motilal Nehru, who was a successful barrister and a member of the United Provinces Legislative Council, had a lot to write to his son Jawaharlal, about the Gaekwad’s behaviour.
Motilal Nehru traveled to Delhi with his wife Swarup Rani and two little daughters Vijaya Lakshmi and Krishna. Invited to stay at the Provincial Camp of U.P. by the Lieutenant Governor, Motilal Nehru recorded having enjoyed the stay and how living in open air helped him recover from a cough and the positive impact it had on his wife’s health.
Summing up his experience, Motilal Nehru wrote to Jawahar Lal on December 22, 1911: “At Delhi we were treated very well indeed. Every possible comfort was found for us in the camp. I was one of the twenty from the United Provinces selected to do a homage to Their Majesties and did not make an ass of myself as Baroda did.”
Describing what he saw, Motilal Nehru wrote: “I am sorry to say that the Gaekwad has fallen from the high pedestal he once occupied in public estimation. I was not quite prepared for something silly on his part. My seat at the Durbar was not far from is and we were chatting away before the arrival of the king. He asked me what I thought of the show and on my saying that it was the grandest tamasha I had seen, remarked that it would have been all right if we had not to act in it like animals in a circus.
“Perhaps you are not aware of what it was that he actually did as I have not seen it reported anywhere. He went straight up to the dais, made a slight bow and at once turned his back on the King and the Queen walking away (rather sauntering away) with one hand in his pocket and turning his stick round and round with the other.
“Where was the necessity of all this if it was all to end in the abject apology Which you might have seen….It has completely wrecked his reputation.”
Jawahar Lal Nehru wrote back on December 29, 1911: “The papers here have said a lot about it but none of them has given a complete account. I think it is silly of the Gaekwad to do as he did, and siller still to humbly apologize for it after he had done it. But silliest of it was his justification to The Times.”
Anglo-Indian and British newspapers called for action against the Baroda ruler.Later, on the advice of the British Resident in his court, the Maharaja sent a written apology, but the viceroy would have nothing of it. Party-I-Khas: Red Fort was cleaned up for the royal visit and the lawn in front of the Diwan-I-Khas was the venue of one of the many royal garden parties Mass Spectacle The Delhi Durbar was out of bounds for common folk, but over 100,000 showed up at jama Masjid to watch the festivities at Red Fort. Not So High, Not So High! Exclaimed Queen Mary when the royal pages lifted her train a little too high and gave the world a view of the royal consort that it could do without! Unheralded Entry: When King George V made his entry via the Delhi Gate of Red Fort, he chose to wear a field marshal’s uniform and ride a horse. The onlookers, as a result, didn’t realise their King-emperor had arrived! Durbar of Fire: At least three fires broke out mysteriously during the Delhi Durbar. The tent of the private secretary of king George V was also gutted, but the fires were controlled. (Above) Burqa Begum: The Begum of Bhopal, the only woman ruler in the entire assemblage of royals, came covered from head to toe. Here, she pays her respects to her king-emperor. (Left) His Majesty’s Loyal Subject: When Motilal Nehru, seen in Delhi Durbar finery his son Jawaharlal had sourced from London, asked the Maharaja of Baroda about the “tamasha”, the royal said it would have been all right if they did not have to “act like animals in a circus.”
(source : Mail Today dated 11.12.2011)
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